I used to approach friendship with a long list of expectations. Things I thought a friend should do. A space I thought my friend should fill. Instead of extending grace, I was disappointed when friends didn’t follow through with what they said they’d do. I didn’t care whether they had kids and or whether the unexpected happened. All I saw was my set of rules. “A true friend wouldn’t do that.” “If she was your friend, she would keep her word.” What’s even sadder is I approached my Continue Reading
The Damage We Do When We Withhold Grace
They turn on each other in a New York minute. One second they’re playing nicely together, sharing toys, and laughing. The next I hear screams of “Mama!” as my six-year-old chases his younger sibling through the room. Part of me wants to just close the door and lock them in there. But I figure I should at least see if both kids are still alive. After I kneel down on the floor and get the scoop on what happened, I tell both boys to apologize. I am struck by how quickly they forgive each Continue Reading
Some Truths to Hold onto When You Face Decision Fatigue
Eight months ago, I experienced decision fatigue unlike any other time of my life. In a season filled with highs and joyful moments, there were also days when I felt paralyzed. Fear of making the wrong choice darkened my thoughts like a constant bully, and I didn’t know which way to turn. Those high moments? Topping the list was the fact that a publisher wanted to sign with me. Years of praying and working hard were finally producing a harvest and I could see God’s hand moving in multiple areas Continue Reading