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To the Frustrated Person Trying to Hear God’s Voice

February 7, 2019 by Abby McDonald

I longed for a clear sign. My husband and I were about to make a life-altering decision, but all I felt was uncertainty and confusion.

Should we stay or should we go? And if we stayed, what would that mean for our family?

In scripture, we’re told that the God we serve is not one of confusion. So, the chaos I felt in my head was not a result of him, but of looking to other sources for my answers. Internet searches. Weighing pros and cons. Consulting with family and friends.

All these voices telling me what or what not to do soon became a source of endless chatter. But rather than feel informed, I felt overwhelmed.

While all of these methods of decision-making weren’t necessarily bad, I realized one day that I’d spent very little time sitting before God, praying, and seeking. If my heart’s desire was to know his will, wouldn’t prayer and time in his presence be a good place to start?

When we want to hear from God, I think we often make it more difficult than it actually is. Lord knows, I do. Last spring I led a women’s Bible study about becoming unstuck in our spiritual walk, and the single most common frustration I heard from women was that they had difficulty discerning God’s voice.

The good news is that God wants to communicate with us. His ways of reaching us are limitless because he is infinite. But how do we know we’re hearing from him and not conjecturing something out of our own heads? When we step out in faith, how can we be confident we’re following him and not our own wants?

The more I get to know Jesus, the more I learn he does speak to me. But to hear him, I have to filter out the noise. Here are a few characteristics of his voice that I’ve come to recognize:

  1. It’s not hurried.

I believe when danger is imminent, the Spirit often warns us. And there are seasons when there will be more deadlines and busyness than others. While we are to be diligent and make good use of our time, our God is a relational being. His Word uses terms like “rest,” “abide,” and “still,” but I don’t recall the gospels telling us Jesus rushed to get places, even when he had a lot of work to do.

When we make people feel like check marks on our to-do list, it stings. And to be honest, I think it hurts God too.

If we want to hear him, we have to stop scrolling and rushing long enough to listen.

We sit. We wait. We slow down because his presence is worth it.

  1. It’s consistent and steady.

When we see the Lord change his mind about something in scripture, it’s about withholding judgment. We see this in Exodus when Moses convinces him not to destroy the entire nation of Israel after worshipping a golden calf in place of their God. (Exodus 32:14)

However, when it comes to God’s ultimate will for our lives, it remains unchanging. We’re to love him and honor him. We’re to be an extension of his love to those we do life with and draw others to Christ through our words and actions.

If we follow this simple command, we don’t have to stay in limbo, wondering if we misheard him. We take the next step forward, and when we’re ready, he’ll reveal more of his plan to us.

“For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.”

2 Corinthians 1:20 NIV

  1. It’s a voice that propels, not threatens.

I’ve made a lot of poor decisions that were based off a fear of missing out rather than seeking God’s will. I’ve overcommitted, spread myself too thin, and made people-pleasing first on my agenda.

But here’s the thing. Saying “yes” to God often means saying “no” to others. It often means saying “no” to activities that seem good, and worthy of our time. However, upon closer examination, they’re not the best God has for us.

To produce the best fruit in us, God has to prune the good fruit too. (John 15:2)

He does this not with an anger and vengeance, but with love. Not with threats, but with an invitation to more.

By lifting the burdens that are weighing us down, he’s able to propel us into the future he has for us.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us…”

Hebrews 12:1 NIV

Remember our big decision? Well, when I finally got alone with God, I saw the answer. His leading was clear, and my husband and I made the choice without reservation.

It wasn’t easy, but we knew it was the right path. And in time, he affirmed it, over and over again.

Following God doesn’t mean our roads won’t be difficult. Sometimes, there’s turbulence and bumps that make us question whether we heard him at all. Other times, there’s pain and heartache.

But in the midst of the highs and the lows, there’s also peace. There’s a soul-deep knowledge that no matter what, he’s right there, holding us close as we move forward in faith.

It’s an irreplaceable feeling. It’s an unspeakable joy.

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  1. Christy says

    February 7, 2019 at 7:20 am

    Wise teaching Abby.
    xoxo

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:24 am

      Thank you, friend. xoxo

  2. Jeanne says

    February 7, 2019 at 9:39 am

    Good word. Thank you.

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:24 am

      Thank you, Jeanne. Thanks for visiting. Hope you have a great weekend.

  3. Lisa Appelo says

    February 7, 2019 at 2:00 pm

    It’s true that we need to still all the other voices (including my own!) to listen to God’s. And that fear of missing out can make me detour every time. I love that we have to knit ourselves to God to discern his will though, because it keeps us right where we are supposed to be. Good words, Abby.

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:25 am

      Oh yes, that’s a big one for me too. I’m so thankful He speaks to us when we’re willing to listen. Thanks so much for reading, Lisa.

  4. Kristi Woods says

    February 7, 2019 at 4:59 pm

    Gosh, fear of missing out is a biggie. Seems to be even more of an issue these days with technology and social media. I have to check myself on this one. Glad you and your husband found the wise and godly choice, Abby.

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:26 am

      That FOMO is such a big one, isn’t it? I’m slowly learning that I don’t need to be everywhere, all the time. 😉 Thanks for visiting, friend.

  5. Monika says

    February 8, 2019 at 6:04 am

    Well said!

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:27 am

      Thank you, Monika! I’m so thankful He speaks to us, when slow down enough to listen. 😉 Have a great weekend.

  6. Elizabeth says

    February 8, 2019 at 8:35 am

    It has spoken to me! Thanks a lot for sharing!

    • Abby McDonald says

      February 8, 2019 at 10:27 am

      So thankful to hear that, Elizabeth. Praise God. Have a great weekend!

  7. Heather Mertens says

    February 9, 2019 at 12:37 am

    Woah, Abby, I just finished reading this a little while after I literally posted a post on FB about the “sting”… “When we make people feel like check marks on our to-do list, it stings.” You got that right, my friend.

    I totally get it. I mean we can’t be everything to everyone, and I, too, have a hard time keeping it all lined up just perfect, but that sting… 🙁
    I have made hearing God a priority… even when He is silent, because loving outward and getting answers sometimes go hand in hand. Lovely encouragement here. <3

  8. Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog says

    February 12, 2019 at 11:54 am

    Love your point about God’s voice not being threatening (and the rest too!). It’s a great reminder that He doesn’t use fear, guilt, and anger to direct us. Great post!

  9. Mary Carver says

    February 12, 2019 at 6:17 pm

    Such a great reminder, Abby. I just started seeking God’s will on a big decision, and when I saw your link I knew I needed this word. Thank you.

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