For the third installment of our Leave It Behind series, I am excited to introduce you to my friend and sister in Christ, Katie Reid. I had the pleasure of meeting Katie at the She Speaks conference last year, and was struck by the way she moves past small talk and quickly dives into the deep, spiritual topics of life. It was refreshing and endearing, and I knew I’d found a like-minded soul. Katie’s writing is much like her personality, and isn’t afraid to address the tough questions of life. I always leave her with a nugget of wisdom or truth, and I know you’ll be blessed by her words here today.
Katie M. Reid is a Tightly Wound Woman, a recovering perfectionist who fumbles to receive and extend grace in everyday moments. She delights in her hubby, four children and their life in ministry. Through her writing, singing, speaking and photography she encourages others to find grace in the unraveling of life.
The Right to Defend Ourselves
We sat across from him, in the comfort of our home, and poured out our hearts about hurts we had experienced at our place of employment. Months of frustration came to a head as we felt safe to share with this co-worker. We hadn’t known him long but he seemed kind and empathetic.
Long story short the words we poured out in confidence were spun around and shared with a supervisor; we found ourselves in a big mess of misunderstanding.
My husband confided in a few mentors asking them what he should do. We wanted to defend ourselves and try to untwist what had happened.
One of the mentors gave some hard, yet good, advice. He reminded us how Jesus remained quiet when he was falsely accused. Jesus had every right to defend himself—he had done nothing wrong—yet he remained silent and entrusted Himself to God (see Matthew 27:12-14).
For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps, who committed no sin, nor was any deceit found in His mouth; and while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously; and He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed. For you were continually straying like sheep, but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Guardian of your souls.
1 Peter 2:21-25
The thought of remaining silent and not defending ourselves made us squirm. What about justice? God is a just God, right? But God knew what happened and He could do a better job than we could of defending ourselves, but it was still hard not to speak up. We had been wronged and we wanted it to be made right.
Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; how blessed are all those who wait for Him.
By His strength alone we quietly started packing after we were let go. We painfully put it in God’s hands and let Him fight for us.
We left behind our need to be right, to be heard, to be understood; it felt like torture.
As a believer, do you sometimes feel left behind by God, forgotten in your misery and left to look out for yourself? Let me remind you that this is not true.
He promises that He will not leave you nor forsake you (see Deuteronomy 31:8).
Looking back we see God’s hand of protection and how He removed us from an difficult situation. Every once in awhile the pain resurfaces and we work to let the offenses go, choosing to forgive again—trusting God to have His way. It is not easy.
I read a book entitled,Total Forgiveness, by R.T. Kendall that helped me realize some hard truths about forgiving:
- Forgiving does not mean you are condoning what happened.
- Forgiveness is what you want to receive from others.
- Forgiveness is what we have been graciously given by God.
Jesus remained silent, heavy with all the sins we have committed, yet His actions spoke loudly as He offered Himself as an eternal sacrifice on our behalf—we do not deserve such love and grace yet He gave it anyway.
Jesus left behind His throne in heaven to come down and be made a servant and redeem us from our sins.
If anyone had the right to be offended and defend Himself it was Jesus, yet He didn’t. He laid His rights at the cross, and entrusted Himself to God; we would be wise to do the same.
1 Peter 4:19 “Therefore, let those also who suffer according to the will of God entrust their souls to a faithful Creator in doing what is right.”
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