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Trusting God Beyond What Feels Safe

August 27, 2026 by Abby McDonald 3 Comments

A couple of weeks ago, I read that when infants are born, they have an innate need to store memories where they feel safe and loved. Their first experience on this earth is one of trauma because they’re removed from the warm, dark place they knew for nine months. After being placed in a bright, cold, and unfamiliar environment, they need to know they are still secure. As they build these safe and loved memories, they gradually can recall them during moments when they’re not being held, rocked or coddled.

When I read about this process, I thought about our faith walk and how it follows the same pattern. We first receive the gospel message as “infants,” the apostle Paul says. We live on milk, and often aren’t ready to receive the meatier, heavier aspects of the Word yet. The Spirit knows this, which is why the process of sanctification is not instantaneous. It takes an entire lifetime as we grow and become more like Jesus.

But eventually, God wants us to leave what’s safe and comfortable. He wants us to experience the full adventure of life he has for us, and we can’t do this if we remain stuck in the same place. The book of Acts is filled when men and women who took risks for the sake of spreading God’s love, and many came to know him as a result of their bravery and their refusal to be silenced because of the fear of the Roman empire.

Their stories may seem otherworldly, but the same God who led them continues to lead his people today. However, stepping outside of what feels safe and comfortable may seem difficult or even impossible. After all, what could be more important than our safety and comfort?

There are many things more important, but we’re going to examine three of them. Here are three things God cares about more than our safety and comfort:

1. Running Our Unique Race

In 1st Corinthians, Paul equates our spiritual walk with a race. In other words, it is not stationary.

“Do you not know that in a race all runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run is such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will no last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever.” 1 Corinthians 9:24-25 NIV

The same Spirit that lived in the first believers lives in us, and he wants us to move with him. As we do, we become living testimonies of God’s love and grace in our stories. We leave a trail for others to follow, and they are inspired to take a step of faith, to leave their past behind, and trust God to guide them.

If we refuse to run because we value our own safety over Christ’s call on our lives, we send a message to others as well. We tell them comfort is more important than sharing the love of the gospel. We tell them the life of the follower is stagnant instead of mobile and alive.

2. Growing to Know God More and More Deeply

Just as our spiritual walk moves forward, our relationship with God does also, if we nurture it. The more time we spend with him, the deeper we can know him and sense his leading in our lives. But sometimes, we misconceive knowing God with living a life where we do not experience trouble, pain, or inconvenience. We may even equate suffering with a sign that God has left us altogether, or doesn’t hear our prayers. This way of thinking can cause years of grief and heartache for a believer, and cause us to turn our backs on God.

However, scripture doesn’t tell us the live of the Christ-follower will be pain-free. As a matter of fact, Jesus guarantees trouble will come in the gospel of John. (John 16:33) But after stating this, he reminds us where our peace and our hope come from: him alone. Hardship may come, but he will be there with us and walk with us through it. Not only that, but he has already overcome our enemy and every difficulty we face in this life, and one day he will redeem what was lost here on earth.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 NIV

Instead of only turning to him only for safety and comfort, God longs for us to invite him into every aspect of our lives so that we may know him more deeply. And the more we know him, the more the worries of this world fade. Not because the circumstances change, but because our perspective shifts from short-term fixes to the long-term hope Jesus offers us.

3. Sharing Who God Is With Others

Several years ago, my husband shared a conversation with a young man who didn’t grow up in a Christian home. My husband was talking to him about a prayer God answered, and after listening to the story, the man said, “You can talk to God like that?” He was in complete disbelief over what he’d just heard. He didn’t realize that once we are in Christ, we can approach God as a confidant and a friend, and God cares for our individual needs. But if my husband hadn’t taken a risk, this conversation never would’ve happened. He risked being laughed at, ridiculed, and rejected, but these possibilities weren’t as important to him as sharing the truth of who God was.

There are many people who, like this young man, don’t know what it means to have a personal relationship with the One who gave his life for us. They are searching for answers, and they may never step foot in a church. We might be the only way they see who Jesus is, and what they see matters.

“You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.” 2 Corinthians 3:2-3 NIV

But if we’re going to share with them, we have to put our doubts and worries aside. We have to remember the life Jesus offers is far more valuable than any temporary misunderstanding we might face.

When Jesus walked the earth with the first disciples, he told them they would accomplish even greater things than he did during his ministry. (John 14:12) That’s hard to imagine, isn’t it? As we read about all the miracles and healings, Jesus’ promise might seem like something out of a fairy tale or science fiction novel. But it wasn’t, and he meant it. If we continue reading about the things that happened after he ascended into heaven, we see this promise unfolding before his followers’ eyes.

To take hold this life Jesus told us about, we have to leave the infancy of our faith. 

We have to take him at his word, and step into the unknown. We can start following the same pattern as those babies who’ve just left the womb. By recalling all those moments when Jesus comforted us and was faithful during our time of need. By remembering his provision and the ways he showed up during moments we doubted.

After collecting those memories, we will have renewed confidence for the journey. We can leave the comfort of our stuck places. And when we do, he will be there to meet us and show us the what’s next. He will not leave us fumbling around in the dark.

Let’s shift our focus from where we’ve been to where he’s taking us.

An Invitation:

Do you feel stuck in a decision you need to make, doubting your ability to hear from God? Do you sense that He is prompting you to take a step of faith, but you’re waiting for another sign? Friend, I know what it’s like to spend more time in my head than responding to God’s voice.

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When You’re Waiting for God to Make it Obvious

July 30, 2026 by Abby McDonald

I have always wanted God to make things obvious. As long as I can remember, this longing for God to give me the black-and-white sign telling me which way to go has been constant. And if it had bells and whistles on it, all the better. When my husband and I first got married, we had a saying for these moments when God’s leading was unmistakable. We called them two-by-fours to the head. Now, I realize that description doesn’t sound very pleasant, but if you’ve had one of those moments, you Continue Reading

When You’re Afraid You’ll Make the Wrong Decision

June 25, 2026 by Abby McDonald

We weren’t on the trail for long before we had to make a decision. A fork in the path presented two different options: If we turned to the right, a steep incline of steps and uneven rocks greeted us. But if we stayed left, the incline was more gradual and smooth. Since my husband and I had dogs and this was our first time hiking the trail together, we chose the easier way without hesitation. Later, we discovered that both paths converged at the top of the mountain, leading to the same vista. Continue Reading

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Hi! I'm Abby and I'm so glad you're here. I am a wife and a mom of two very energetic boys and one sweet baby girl. When I'm not chasing them around I love to write about my love for a God who relentlessly pursued me, even during my darkest times. READ MORE...

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In world full of noise telling us who we are and w In world full of noise telling us who we are and what we need, these three things remain true. Turn your face toward Him today and listen to His voice. He will never speak to His child with a voice of condemnation.
Each time we say “yes” to God, we leave a trail. W Each time we say “yes” to God, we leave a trail. We leave a path for others to follow and a legacy of faithfulness for them to cling to when the view ahead is unclear. That is what the women and men of the Bible did for us, and it’s what we can do for others when we stop and commemorate moments of victory. 

Commemorating those moments of victory may look like:

📌 Sharing stories of God’s faithfulness with others- your family community, church, etc.

📝 Writing your story for others to read.

🙌🏼 Celebrating steps of faith you’ve taken, what God has done, and how you’ve grown. 

Sometimes we get so focused on what’s next, we forget to create altars of remembrance. We forget to celebrate our progress and what God has done. But each time we do this, we create that trail. We bear witness to the faithfulness of the living God.

Let’s not forget the forget the legacy we leave with each remembered moment today.

#seekhimfirst #hisfaithfulness #faithwriter
Many of us are trying to find certainty in this wo Many of us are trying to find certainty in this world that feels so unstable. Questions can keep us up at night and cause continuous, low-grade anxiety.
 
When will the sickness end?
Will my family member stop running from God?
How will I know whether to take the job?
 
Too often, we go to others first — online “experts,” friends, even pastors — instead of God. Scripture instructs us to seek wise counsel, yet it’s also clear that the most “Wonderful Counselor” is God Himself (Isaiah 9:6, NIV).
 
Thanks be to God, He is ready and willing to speak to us when we come to Him. When we don’t, we miss out on a beautiful gift He offers each of us who calls Him Lord: the ability to hear His voice.
 
Jeremiah reminds us that some things can only be revealed to us by the Creator: “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know” (Jeremiah 33:3).
 
This prophet asked God many questions. He longed for justice and wondered why the wicked seemed to prosper. He begged a defiant, wayward Israel to return to the Lord, though they didn’t listen. When it seemed like things couldn’t get worse, Jeremiah was kidnapped by rebels and taken to Egypt. There, in the middle of what seemed like a hopeless situation, the word of the Lord came to him.
 
God reminded Jeremiah that He still had a plan for Israel’s redemption. Every question Jeremiah asked had an answer, even if it didn’t look the way he thought it would.
 
Friend, seeking God for ourselves takes courage. It takes putting aside our desire for immediate answers and practicing patience. But when we do, we foster our ability to hear Him. And it’s always worth it.
 
God, thank You for Your promise to speak to each one of us who calls You Lord. When we’re tempted to trade this for a quick answer, help us remember the priceless gift we have in You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

➡️ Read the full devo at @proverbs31ministries
I was prepping for a talk when I discovered these I was prepping for a talk when I discovered these notes from two years ago. These were the beginnings of chapter 3 in Surrendering Certainty, The Tree of Life Called Desire. It’s one of my favorite chapters, and it was also one of the most difficult to write. 

But the blessing of writing it and working through the fear, brain fog, and procrastination? One thousand percent worth it. 

Writing, as Hemingway once said, is sometimes like, “drilling out rock and blasting it with charges.” In an age where it’s easier to hop on ChatGPT anytime something gets difficult, can I encourage you to resist the urge?

I believe AI has its place and its benefits, but I also believe we are forfeiting our creativity to a machine. And each time we do, it becomes a little easier to do it without even thinking about the consequences. It’s not worth it. As an editor, I can tell you that AI writing does not sound human; it is quite obviously robotic.

Will it take more time to write through the struggle? Yes. But the One who breathed life into Adam, the Author of Creativity himself, still breathes life into our words and our art. And the struggle is very essence of it. 

Art without struggle isn’t art. It’s merely an imitation. 

So keep pushing back against the resistance and create. I can promise you, you won’t be sorry.

#writinglife #writingcommunity
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I’m not sure how we got here, but my heart is so f I’m not sure how we got here, but my heart is so full. Last night, this guy completed his third graduation in less than one week. He was one of two seniors in his high school class to complete an associates degree while finishing his regular classes through dual enrollment. Not only that, but he achieved this with the highest honor- summa cum laude. 

To say I am proud is an understatement. I can’t wait to see what God has in store next for this amazing young man. 🧑‍🎓💗🎉
It’s cubbing season for coyotes, and they’ve been It’s cubbing season for coyotes, and they’ve been more bold it their search for food. On more than one occasion, we’ve had a pack in our yard late at night, or not far from it. When my husband goes outside with our dog, their calls follow.

But they aren’t calls that sound ominous or threatening. They’re more like playful yipping. A sound that says, “Hey, we just want to play. Come closer. Come play with us.”

And our dog would, if left on his own. His tail wags. His demeanor is unafraid. If not for my husband’s stern voice and command, he probably would run off. Never to return.

It reminded me of the way the enemy often lures us into deception. It’s never with a blazing trumpet or announcement saying, “Hey, come over here and let your soul die a little bit.”

His calls sound like something else altogether. An invitation masqueraded in light, not darkness.

“And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.”

2 Corinthians 11:14 NIV

If we’re not armed with the Truth, his arrows will hit their target again and again. 

Here are 3 ways we’re often wrong about how the enemy works:

1. He can’t read our minds.
Satan is not omniscient. He doesn’t know what you’re thinking or have the ability to, as the psalmist says, name a thought that’s on your tongue before you speak it.

2. He knows the Word of God, but twists its meaning.
Our enemy is not ignorant about the Word of God. After all, he is a fallen angel. This is one of the reasons we need to study the Word in its proper context and ask for the Spirit to help us in our understanding.

3. He uses distraction more often than direct invitation.
One of our enemy’s main goals is to distract us from our purposes here on earth- to glorify God, enjoy him, and to help lead others to him. 

Friends, the lies of the enemy are too numerous to name, but we can be sure of this: He’s always telling them. Jesus called him the father of lies. (John 8:44) 

While it’s important to recognize his tactics, our best defense will always be to know the One who defeated him. Because he is greater, and he will lead us to victory. Let’s start there, today and every day.
I listen to so many voices every day, often withou I listen to so many voices every day, often without even questioning them. Sometimes the voices are from other people, whether face to face or online. Sometimes it’s an internal monologue that causes me to question God’s direction:

How can I be sure what God is saying to me? 
God would never ask me to do that, would he?

How about you, friend? Does any of this sound familiar? When we listen to these voices without holding them up to the Truth of God’s Word, we can go down a path God never intended for us. In today’s key verse, the Apostle John warns us not to listen to every voice but to test what we hear:

“Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world” (1 John 4:1).

So how do we know whether a spirit or voice is from God? John goes on to say that voices of truth will acknowledge Jesus Christ as the Son of God. He also says spirits, teachers, or other voices that are not from God will “speak from the viewpoint of the world, and the world listens to them” (1 John 4:5, NIV).

These distinctions may seem simple, but our enemy is skilled at distraction. As we listen to the voices of influence around us, we can ask ourselves questions like:

Is this how God would speak to me?
Is this consistent with God’s character?

Friend, if the answer is “no,” then turn the other way. Don’t listen or look back. Be empowered by the Spirit of Truth within you, and know He wants to see you flourish.

#dailyword #seekhimfirst
Lately, I’ve been more aware than ever of how much Lately, I’ve been more aware than ever of how much the enemy wants to shut me up. Both my spoken words and written ones. 

Every opportunity I’ve had to share or teach has been met with doubt, discouragement, and a nagging fear that I’ll say something wrong. And I don’t mean by offending others. I mean saying something that would dishonor God or lead others astray.

The deceiver has attacked me physically and emotionally, twisted words from others, and called out past sin I repented of a long time ago. And the moment I realize what’s happening, he uses a different angle.

This tactic is nothing new. A look at Revelation uses a name for the enemy that epitomizes his ways and his agenda: the accuser.

 “And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God. And they have conquered him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, for they loved not their lives even unto death.”

Revelation 2:10-11 ESV

Today I’m declaring no more. I rebuke the liar and betrayer in the name of Jesus. And when he starts again tomorrow, I will rebuke him once more. 

Friend, if you are in Christ, your words and your testimony have more power than you can possibly comprehend. Not because of anything you’ve done. You have nothing to do with it. But because of the Holy Spirit who lives in you.

When you:

1. Share what God has done in your life
2. Speak words of encouragement over your sisters and brothers 
3. Declare victory over a sin that is holding you or someone else in bondage 
4. Speak a prophetic word God has given you over a fellow believer….

you are changing the trajectory of people’s lives. When no one else will step up and speak, you are choosing to stand on the truth God has spoken in His word.

Your words can bring light and life where there is none. They can give hope where there is only despair and depression. 

But you have to speak them. Don’t let the enemy suppress the birthright God has given you any longer.
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Are there areas of your life where you can’t seem to find breakthrough? Do you feel as though your keep praying the same prayers over and over, but you’re not getting anywhere?

A life stuck is one that never moves into the fullness Christ created us to have.

This is why I created the “5 Days to Life Unstuck Challenge”. In this 5-day challenge, we will look at five key areas where the enemy likes for us to stay stuck. Then, we will implement a simple, doable mindset shift.

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